A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime and the University of Life

A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime and the University of Life

There’s a quiet syllabus nobody hands you at birth - no official orientation to the complex, unpredictable coursework of human connection. And yet, here we are, enrolled from day one in the grandest institution there is: The University of Life.

Course Title: Relationships 101
Prerequisite: None.
Core Modules: Attachment, Loss, Rebuilding, Boundaries, Intimacy, and the Ultimate Elective - Letting Go.

You see, most of us begin our relationship journey under a subtle illusion: that the people we love will love us forever. That the ones who feel familiar will always be around. That connection, once sparked, is somehow contractually obliged to remain lit. But here’s the truth - and it’s one that hurts before it heals:

Not every person is meant to stay.

Some arrive with a reason: to teach us something, shift our direction, ignite an awakening, or even break our hearts so we can finally hear our own pulse. They are the catalysts. The guest lecturers. Their arrival is swift and meaningful, their exit often abrupt - but their impact? Indelible.

Some stay for a season: the summer of your becoming, the winter of your undoing. They walk with you through specific life chapters - university, divorce, motherhood, loss, addiction, career shifts - and though it feels like forever while it lasts, the season eventually changes. And so do you.

And then, if you're lucky, there are the lifetime people. The ones who weather your metamorphoses, who’ve seen all your iterations - your unfiltered self and your curated self, your breakdowns and breakthroughs. These are the few who not only stay but grow with you. Lifers. Soul kin.

Degrees of Growth

Every relationship - yes, even the messiest ones - is part of your emotional education.

The painful friendship that made you redefine your boundaries? Diploma in Self-Worth.

The romantic entanglement that mirrored your unresolved childhood patterns? Advanced Degree in Shadow Work.

The person who walked away without explanation? Crash course in Non-Attachment and Emotional Literacy.

The love that continues to evolve, deepen, challenge, and comfort you? Ongoing Masters in Relational Integrity.

These aren’t failures. They’re fieldwork. Because you can’t learn emotional fluency in theory. You need practice partners. Case studies. Lab experiments in intimacy.

Navigating the Curricula of Connection - As we grow - and we are meant to grow - our resonance shifts. The people we once magnetized may no longer match our current frequency. That’s not betrayal. That’s biology. We outgrow shoes, cities, belief systems - and yes, sometimes, people.

The most important thing is this:
Don’t resist the recalibration.

It is sacred work to understand:

What feels good in your nervous system.
What supports your evolution, not your regression.
What kind of connection allows you to be both safe and wild, seen and sovereign.
Relationships are not trophies to be kept in glass cabinets. They are living organisms. Some need pruning. Some are annuals, others perennials. Some need to be composted for something richer to grow.

Final Exam: Know Thyself - The deeper you go in this University of Life, the more fluent you become in one essential language: the language of Self. And once you speak it, you’ll attract those who are fluent in it too.

This is not a call to be guarded. It's a call to be discerning.  

To honour the beautiful impermanence of some connections.
To celebrate the unexpected longevity of others.
And to know, deeply, that all of it - the reason, the season, and the lifetime - is part of your graduation into wholeness.

Welcome to the University of Life. You’re already enrolled.